Does it feel like something just doesn’t want you to achieve success?
Are you actively chasing your dreams but it constantly feel like you get stuck every time you start getting closer to success? Like something is holding you back from success, but for the life of you, you can’t figure out what?
Can you guess what that is…
Fear of Failure!
And of course, intertwined with fear of failure is also fear of success – the fear of becoming successful but then losing it again, but it all starts with fear of failure.
If you don’t try, you won’t ever fail. If you won’t ever fail, you won’t ever learn. If you won’t ever learn, you will never become successful at anything in life.
Somewhere along the line we started to believe that it is completely wrong to fail (in case you were wondering, yes schools, I’m pointing the finger to you here). We were taught in school that it is so wrong to fail that it is almost considered an unforgivable sin. And no one wants to intentionally sin, so I can understand why we tell ourselves that we must never ever fail.
Unfortunately, as I just said, if you don’t ever fail, you won’t ever learn and if you don’t learn you will never ever become successful at anything in life.
Can you see how absurd these ideas we were taught as kids about failure really are?
I don’t have a problem if you have a fear of failure. Contrary to popular belief, everyone on earth has fear of failure, even those who have achieved the highest levels of success. Fear of failure is not something only the unsuccessful struggle with. Everyone struggles with it.
The reason we struggle with it is because of the absurd way we were taught to look at failure. So you can relax, I’m not blaming you for having fear of failure. I am blaming those who taught us that failure is something that should be feared. I am blaming those who were (and still are) too afraid to find the courage within themselves to actually go after their dreams, who rather settled for second-best in life and who constantly lie to themselves telling themselves that they are happy with what they settled for. When deep within their hearts, they know they are not happy. Regrettably they will rather believe the lie they tell themselves than to actually put on their big-boy pants and go after their dreams.
I am blaming them for your fear of failure!
As if it wasn’t bad enough that they settled for second-best in life, they now have the nerve to influence young kids in school by killing their dreams as well!?! Who do they think they are?
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” – J.K. Rowling
What can we do about it?
I feel we should blame them, because they have no right to kill the dreams of others.
However, if you really want to get back at them, prove them wrong and ACHIEVE SUCCESS against all odds! And in the process you might just inspire them to also finally find the courage within themselves to chase their dreams one more time, instead of settling for second-best.
If you experience fear of failure, don’t feel bad. Everyone experiences fear of failure. But what sets the successful and the unsuccessful apart is how they REACT to that fear of failure.
Both experience fear of failure and both will continue to experience fear of failure, however the closer the unsuccessful ones get to success, the more they start to put their foot on the brake, while the successful ones do the exact opposite.
The closer the successful ones get to success, the harder they put their foot down on the gas! When they see success getting closer they put their foot down harder than ever before to get there as fast as possible!
“If you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate.” – Thomas J. Watson
This is a very simple, yet profound concept once you start applying it to your life. However, I understand that actually applying it is not always easy. If it was easy, everyone would do it.
Trust me, I completely understand. I am also guilty of putting my foot on the brake instead of the gas the closer I get to success, but the only reason that happens is because of my faulty view of failure I was taught in school and by society. I still struggle with fear of failure and I still struggle with the way in which I REACT to that fear of failure. It still happens sometimes that I get a new idea about an online course or a book I want to create where I get really excited, but then I find myself procrastinating and over-analysing – thinking of all the different ways in which I could potentially fail. And suddenly, I talk myself out of it or I start to lose that passion and excitement I had to create it.
That is the effect of reacting to fear of failure in the wrong way. But gladly I was able to break free from the way of thinking we were taught in school and I am working on improving my reaction to fear of failure on a daily basis: I am now taking action regardless of whether I think I will fail or not. By doing that, I am finally taking my foot off the brake and putting it squarely on the gas.
And you should too!!
The more you fail and the faster you fail, the faster you will get to success!
So if you start feeling stuck, if you start hitting obstacle after obstacle, if you start feeling that fear of failure creeping in, if you are not yet living the life of your dreams – Go out there, take action and fail more and even faster than before, because that is the only way you will get to success and get past that feeling of being stuck.
“The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.” – Stephen McCranie
Don’t let fear of failure hold you back! Control the way in which you react to fear of failure and success will then never elude you!
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